Part 1: Here’s why you aren’t where you want to be

If we’re honest, many of us will admit that we aren’t in the place we’d like to be, or know we should be. We hold dreams, visions and desires to be somewhere else, do something else or for both.

Some of us have been in this place for a mighty long time!

There are lots of reasons for this but we can pretty much conclude that whatever they are they will fall within three of the following categories:




Whatever we want in life we must trade one or more of the above to get it. When we look at it this way solving the problem of moving forward is made easier. We need to reduce or increase one or more of time, energy or finance so that we can fulfil our dreams, visions or desires to be somewhere else or do something else.

How to increase the resources of time and energy

Unlike finance, time and energy are finite resources – we have only so much of them. The only way to increase these is to use the third resource, finance, to buy more in. We do that by employing the help of people or aids, like technology.

So, what do you do if the third resource is itself also in limited supply? In my field of publishing and media this is frequently done by enlisting user generated support, which has worked particularly well for content creation. This is what makes social media platforms so successful. The founders provide the platform but it is the users (us) that generate the content that makes the platform work.

We can also employ technology. Automated systems, for example, can do the work of several people quite effectively.

This of course doesn’t work for every problem. In my case I employ technology for some things but for others I outsource much of the time consuming and energy draining work that technology cannot do and which stands between me and my goal. This of course saps my finances as my outgoings increase, so I deal with the problem by increasing my prices to cover the reduction in income. That way I can afford to pay my team, get work done and still have enough to live on while freeing up my time to pursue the goals I have in mind. Sounds simple, but it isn’t.

The cure for impatience

I’ll make two points as to why. Firstly, one of the things that causes us a lot of frustration is that we often want things now. We want to get where we want to get and be what we want to be right now. But it doesn’t happen that way and, in fact, if it did we would miss out on a whole lot of opportunities to be had along the way.

We need to stop and treat each step of the way for what it is – an opportunity to learn. Every stage has a benefit of its own. It has a beginning, a middle and an end. If we look at it as only a means to an end, then we will miss out on the growth opportunities it contains. This could be to learn something, to grow a skill, to connect with new people or to help someone.

The process holds a blessing but it is also the natural and inevitable unfolding of growth, progress and change. This leads to my second point.

Part 2: Getting to where you want: how to transition