How to develop your spring-back factor

While you are working to build your business, you will be turned down. People, events, circumstances and even days, will appear to tell you, No.

God has given you the ability to spring back following such disappointments. This is your spring-back factor, and He gave you this ability to help you to deal with days and moments of discouragement.

Of course, we all know this, and we are supposedly set up to handle stuff that comes our way, but even so, sometimes they can take us by surprise. This mostly happens when we least expect it.

A few weeks ago, I was asked to put in proposal for a piece of work that would be a doddle for me to do but it was turned down. It wasn’t so much about being turned down but the language that was used to tell me so. Though the feedback received praised the writing and information covered, it ended with a blunt “and we will not be taking this any further”.

I was taken aback by the tone and knocked a little off balance. It was a bit out of the norm.

‘No’ makes us stronger

This week I came across a post on Facebook – which [so funny, God!] was written by my eldest daughter who runs her own creative arts company.

She said: “Rejection has always been a part of my growth. It’s been the formula to my elasticity, that very ingredient that has made me ‘taste better’.

“When people ask me how it feels to be ‘left out’ of certain things or ‘denied’ by certain things/people, how it feels…? It feels like another opportunity to be successful. ‘Failure’ is just that right…? A step towards success. So, for any of you who have been rejected, neglected or underestimated take that opportunity of success and drag it into your atmosphere.”

She wrote that after being told No three times in one week. She chose instead to focus on what she had been given from being told No.

The most common thing we receive in the face of a setback is the opportunity to develop resilience – our spring-back factor. We can test our resilience and develop our spring-back factor.

Now, instead of asking ‘Why did that happen to me?’ and we ask, ‘How shall I use what’s happened?’

We develop resilience by choosing to learn from our experiences. We treat it like going to the gym where we work out and build muscle. No muscle was ever strengthened through disuse.

Pollyanna and the Rejoicing Texts

As Christian women, these situations are an opportunity to move away from the Word as head knowledge to the Word as real life practice. The Word becomes fact.

And we dearly need this.

In the classic film Pollyanna (1960), based on the 1913 novel by Eleanor H Porter, Pollyanna is orphaned and goes to live with her aunt, who isn’t very nice at all. While playing in the woods one day she comes across the town minister. He is taking a walk after being discouraged to the point of resignation.

Pollyanna encourages him by telling him how whenever her father, who was also a minister, would feel discouraged he would focus on his ‘rejoicing texts’.

“His what?” asks the minister.

“Well, that’s what father used to call them,” replies Pollyanna. “It’s all those that begin with ‘Be glad in the Lord’, ‘Rejoice greatly’ or ‘Shout for joy’. Once when father felt especially sad he counted ‘em. There were eight hundred.”

“Eight hundred?”

“Yes,” says Pollyanna. “Father said that if God took the trouble to tell us eight hundred times to be glad and rejoice he must want us to do it. And father felt ashamed that he hadn’t done it more.”

Out of the mouths of babes, here is our strength. We develop our spring-back factor by remembering and acting on the rejoicing texts.